Blind date: ‘We talked so much our food went cold’

Carlos

Carlos on Tom

What were you hoping for?
Someone fun, ambitious and interesting.

First impressions?
Well dressed. Great smile. Tall.

What did you talk about?
Careers. We talked about our travel stories – he is very well travelled and talked about his time in South America. Gay pride.

Any awkward moments?
Our mutual lactose-intolerance status. It made for a great topic of conversation when we were browsing the dessert menu. I don’t think the waiter fully understood when Tom said he couldn’t have dairy – he was presented with scoops of ice-cream.

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Good table manners?
He holds his wine glass by the stem and shared his food, so it’s a yes from me. I wouldn’t say the same for myself – I dropped my steak knife in my lap after almost stabbing myself with it.

Best thing about Tom?
He’s ambitious and knows what he wants out of life. And Tegwen, his dog.

Would you introduce him to your friends?
I’m not too sure they’d have much in common, but why not?

Describe Tom in three words?
Ambitious, chilled and a traveller.

What do you think he made of you?
I’d like to think that I was funny.

Did you go on somewhere?
The restaurant asked if we wanted to go to the sky bar, but it was already 11 – I was on call the next day and he had a PT session in the morning.

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And … did you kiss?
The date wasn’t going that way.

If you could change one thing about the evening what would it be?
The dairy-based cheese menu.

Marks out of 10?
7/10. We have stuff in common but want different things out of life.

Would you meet again?
Yeah, for sure, as friends.

tom

Tom on Carlos

What were you hoping for?
Someone kind, open and passionate.

First impressions?
Tall, handsome and a little nervous.

What did you talk about?
Learning languages, our travels, my dog, Tegwen, Carlos’s passion for plants and the quirky gigs he goes to.

Any awkward moments?
The dessert menu was not very lactose-intolerant friendly. My only choice was sorbet – and they still put in balls of ice-cream!

Good table manners?
Impeccable. We talked a lot, so our food went cold, but it was worth it.

Best thing about Carlos?
Very unassuming, but accomplished. His mum must be proud.

Would you introduce him to your friends?
Sure! But he’s the type of person I’d prefer to spend time with in a more chilled setting.

Describe Carlos in three words?
Kind, caring and modest.

What do you think he made of you?
That I didn’t shut up! This was my first night out in a while due to illness, and I was glad to engage with someone new.

Did you go on somewhere?
We spent three hours in the restaurant, so it was already quite late, and he was working early the next day. So, no.

And … did you kiss?
Just a friendly hug.

If you could change one thing about the evening what would it be?
More dessert options for the lactose-intolerant community.

Marks out of 10?
10, a perfect gentleman.

Would you meet again?
As friends, yes. He’s already promised to take me to a gig sometime.

Carlos and Tom ate at Gino D’Acampo’s My Restaurant, Liverpool. Fancy a blind date? Email blind.date@theguardian.com